When the history of 2019 is written, I hope it is remembered (to the exclusion of literally everything else) as the year that the women of Love Island finally delivered a righteous chorus of “fuck this.”
Faced with the standard onslaught of callous stupidity from a reel of tightly-trousered, emotionally illiterate men, the show’s 2019 cohort have repeatedly said “no” to bad treatment.
It’s not all been victories, and it’s certainly not the new frontier of feminism, but it has been a wild ride. Here is my unasked-for countdown of the top 9 girl power moments from this season.
9. Amber tells Tommy and Joe “I’m no one’s second best”
Cast your minds back to week one. Amber is still a widely disliked islander. Floppy-haired and floppy-personalitied Joe admits to her face that he was flirting with her to try to make his partner, Lucie, jealous as she talks to Tommy Fury. As for Tommy, he is soon rejected by Lucie after telling her that he would “crawl to the moon and back” for her. In the tradition of many Love Islanders before him, and without the candour shown by Joe, he tries to backtrack and put the moves on Amber.
Amber shuts both of them down.
“I’m no one’s second best,” she shrugs to the camera in the beach hut later. A small moment in the arc of the series, but in hindsight, the equivalent of dimming the lights and setting the mood music for the season to “I think the fuck not”.
8. Joanna calls Michael a snake
Cut to a few weeks later, and a lot has changed.
This moment might be a controversial pick for this list, partly because a lot of people have a grudge against Joanna for her (admittedly questionable) attitude towards Amber when she was in the villa, and partly because of the fact that pictures have recently surfaced of she and Michael kissing on the outside.
However, I’m in the spirit of leniency. Not all fuck-yous are forever, we’ve all forgiven someone who maybe didn’t deserve it, and at the very least it did make good TV. I am therefore graciously allowing Joanna a low spot on this list that solely I care about.
7. Maura dumps Tom
Ah, Hurricane Maura hits the list. The great provider of so many of this season’s greatest hits.
Though by the time this moment rolled around, Maura and Tom had already had their peak blowout, this was a lesson in not letting anyone abuse the second chance you give them. Maura’s best moments are yet to come in this countdown, but refusing to be called “embarrassing” is up there for me.
6. Yewande pulls Danny and Arabella for a chat
Winner of my unofficial Islander Who Deserved Better award, Yewande was sick of the relay race of information going on between herself, her partner Danny, and his new love interest Arabella.
Flouting the unspoken Love Island ritual of piecing together information one “chat” at a time by moving from the terrace to the day beds to the fire pit with the mechanical regularity of a cuckoo clock, Yewande did the scientific thing and went straight to the source. Big Dick Energy if ever I’ve seen it.
5. Amy’s exit
Much as I was annoyed by Amy for most of her time in the villa, I do think she deserves some credit. Sometimes standing up for yourself isn’t about standing up to anyone, it’s about looking at the next four weeks of watching the man you love swivel his hips in the direction of another woman while creepily mouthing “Young lady” and making the decision to say “No thank you, actually.”
4. Maura and Anna vs. Curtis and Jordan
The thing that made this moment great was its complete typification of the Maura mentality: no hesitation, no reluctance to upset her panto villain of a partner. Her wine glass instantly went over her shoulder and she sought out her friend, ignoring Curtis’s panicked stage whispers from the bean bags. Anna also gets points for the immediacy and boldness of her reaction, even though the argument really did hurt to watch.
3. “Shut yer mout ya prick”
I know technically this should be lumped in with number four but I could watch this moment on loop for days.
Anything that comes out of Maura’s perfectly-glossed mouth she backs to the hilt—no embarrassment, no fear, no forced guilt. An icon.
2. Tom’s “dickhead comment”
The moment that Maura rejected Tom was one of my favourite ever moments of reality TV and, possibly, my life.
I’ve already spoken about the instantaneousness of the retribution men in the villa faced if they crossed Maura; the blistering speed with which her anger came down on them if they disrespected her or one of her friends.
Speaking to friends about the episode, what was generally agreed upon was the remarkable familiarity of the situation, contrasted with the unfamiliarity of Maura’s refusal to back down from her outrage.
Faced with the same thing, I’m sure I would have doubted myself; swallowed my hurt and anger under the pressure of a roomful of men all assuring the other party that they’d done nothing wrong. Not Maura.
She had her bad moments in the villa, certainly, and at the end of the day it is all warped through the lens of the edit. But Maura set her own benchmark for how to be treated on this season, and it made for glorious viewing—and, I think, had a significant ripple effect for the women around her.
1. Amber recouples with Greg over Michael
Though I will be hearing Maura’s thick Irish accent shouting obscenities at any man who crosses me for the rest of my days, there’s no argument as to who had the biggest moment this season.
Looking back, Amber choosing sexy Irish Greg over Michael in the recoupling seems obvious, and any anxieties over it going the other way merely the result of good editing. But this moment defined the arc of the whole series and revived the premise of Love Island as a show for me.
The truth is that this season, for all its drama, was tough to watch. Nearly every one of the moments on this list was born out of pain inflicted on women for the purposes of reality TV. If you feel any empathy for them at all, there were times when Love Island 2019 felt like a gruelling uphill climb with no signs of a summit.
The moment that Amber chose Greg was an instrumental one in breaking that pattern. It was the fresh start that the series needed to alter its course—a healthy choice, made enthusiastically, by someone who rightly believed that she deserved respect and happiness. It couldn’t save Anna from Jordan’s eleventh-hour head turn, or Queen Maura from the clutches of Curtis, but it made sure that the series parted on a message of resilience. It is what ultimately upset the order of what makes a Love Island winner and it delivered the incredible final result.
Previously, winners have been clear from early in the show’s run, and longevity and basic likeability were all the ingredients for a winning couple. As such, the show lost all momentum the closer it got to the final.
Greg and Amber winning has bucked that trend. A couple of less than 12 days in the villa rising to the top, largely on the strength of one woman’s belief in her own self-worth, has flipped the script on a format that was losing its edge, and it’s renewed my hope that the microcosm of modern dating we see on this show can actually be something other than a bit depressing.
So, long live the women of Love Island 2019. May their crops of Boohoo voucher codes ever flourish, and may someone please get Maura a presenting job so I don’t have to say goodbye to her too soon.
When all is said and done, you’ll believe God is a woman.
Ariana Grande, philosopher